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Hey dolls, welcome back to another article of Lil' Bimbo Magazine. Today's specific article is 'hot girls don't gatekeep - big sister guide'. I'll be telling you tips I know as well as tips I've read from anywhere else and way more stuff you should know! Without further ado, let's get straight into it!

 Book I've read lately:

The black book of Hollywood beauty secrets - It's super good, it literally has so many tips from celebrities and beauticians, makeup artists and even plastic surgeons on how celebrities stay looking good, even after divorces! It has skincare, makeup tips and way more. It seems like this book literally fell from the gates of heaven!

Music choices:

I've chose to listen to positive music ONLY for like the past year and it's seriously uplifted my overall mood, the theory of music affecting mood is actually very real and this is why we should take into consideration what we listen to and how it helps us perceive our emotions.

Music artists I listen to?

• Slayyyter
• Nattalie Blake
• Ayesha Erotica
• That Kid
• Chase Icon
• Nelly Furtado
• Lady Gaga
• Lil Hero
• Miss Luxury

+ MORE

 Psychology of colors:

If you read this article , I have started this idea of introducing psychology of colors when I do an article on a specific aesthetic, so check it out if you're interested. I'm a psychology student for A Level so I'm studying psychology anyway but one time I was scrolling on Tiktok and I saw a woman do a psychological analysis on the color pink and that's when I started getting very interested on the topic: Psychology of colors! Anyways, I've kind of noticed that people tend to wear plainer colors because they don't want to stand out, or sometimes it is just due to preference. But I've always been someone who is into pink so when I found that Tiktok, I was very intrigued on how you can be perceived due to what colors you wear, in this section of this article I will give you one example I think about, using the color pink!

PINK:

The color pink is my ultimate favorite! When I think of the color pink, I think of Sabrina Lilianne, Kiana (kxodolly on Pinterest), parfaitd0ll, Elle Woods and of course - the Pink Lady of Hollywood!

Pink definitely is one of those colors that has a deep psychological meaning for many people, specifically girls, in my opinion. Growing up many girls, including myself, would be shamed for liking the color pink and some girls would publicly deny they like pink just because others saw it as 'embarrassing', so fast forward to now, many girls are embracing their femininity and wearing pink, liking sanrio and finding their own aesthetic.

Pink = Provides sense of calmness, relaxation, contentment, romance, soothing, innocence and sweetness.

I feel like that's why when I see people in pink (and not just because it's my favorite color), I instantly get a sense of calmness because pink is a very soothing color rather than a rousing one (like red), some of my favorite influencers are always sporting the color pink and it feels like they are such calming people, this quite literally is the effect of pink!

I don't know...?

• "My aesthetic?" - Find influencers that wear certain colors, brands, clothing items or patterns that you like. Go on the aesthetic wiki page and find what you like.
• "How to make friends?" - Practice social skills, give them a compliment, ask them about their hobbies, invite them to hang out
• "Why people are so rude to each other?" - Insecurity, frustration, anger, negative emotions. Hurt people hurt people. People who are truly content within themselves do not have the time to hate on others or attach negative connotations to someone.
• "How to ask my crush out?" - View it from an objective stance, you will never know until you try. If you don't try you will be kept in suspense forever and it's better to let it out than to wait! If they say no? Ok, move on. If they say yes? You'll be glad you asked! Ask them in private, as well. Also think realistically, if they're a hallway crush, get to know them first. If they're someone in your class, get to know them on a more personal level - etc, etc.
• "What my future career will be?" - Find specific hobbies or watch videos on certain career fields and see what appeals to you the most, get help from a teacher, sometimes they see your passion more than you do or even realise
• "How to express my feelings?" - No one can read your mind, speak up or move on. If this is someone you're close to, it is better to communicate than to give them silent treatment. If it's a stranger, move on, you don't have to take anything to heart from a literal stranger
• "Why I am jealous?" - Stop being jealous, start using that as a fuel for motivating yourself, if someone has the perfect closet, work so you can buy more clothes, if someone has your ideal body, workout to have a similar body to them, if someone has your dream job, look for internships!
• "Why I can't study?" - Find different ways of study techniques, there is not a 'one fits all' code when it comes to studying, try mind maps, watching videos, note taking, podcasts, flash cards, essay practice, etc etc.

Personal realisation:

What I've realised personally?

1. The psychological theory: 'Hedonic treadmill' is real. The hedonic treadmill basically means that we return to a relatively normal state of happiness even after something bad or good has happened to you. This is why we must detach from material things that will make us 'happy'. I touched more about this on my Podcast episode. Money isn't everything, although it is a great thing to have in this lifetime. Human life is so much more complex than that, we came here to experience greater things.
2. Nothing matters in the end.
3. Your parents being mad now, doesn't mean they will be mad forever. They may not understand now but they'll understand in the future. You owe it to yourself to do it.
4. People project negative feelings onto each other, it has nothing to do with you.
5. You don't have to wait for someone to do something before you do it! You want to do something but no one else in the world has done it? Do it, there's nothing wrong about being the first.
6. Everyone was once in your position.
7. Things really do get better in the end.
8. School isn't the end of the world. Sometimes school is genuinely so hard that I catch myself thinking about how life would be without it, but if I didn't have school, I wouldn't have met the most amazing people of my life. Just because a bunch of 17 year olds don't like you right now, doesn't mean you won't go out into the real world, a bunch of people may like you!
9. Stress kills, stop overly stressing about trivial things. It's seriously damaging to physical and mental health.
10. Be kind to everyone, even to those who did you wrong. To heal, you can not hurt. I always say this because I genuinely believe it's true. You may be thinking: "what does that mean, Pr1na?" I'll explain. To truly heal from those who did you wrong, you can't hurt them in return. Smile and wave goodbye, move on. Know that you deserved better than what you got in that moment, taking out your anger on those people will only make them feel better because they wanted a reason to dislike you in the first place. 
11. Tune out the negativity online. People have normalised being unnecessarily rude on social media, just remember you don't need to tune in to the negativity, make space for your mental health.
12. There are 8 billion people on this planet, if someone doesn't value you, another person will
13. Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparing yourself to others won't make you feel better or willing to motivate yourself, it makes you feel even worse. You can admire someone but you don't need to compare yourself. Everyone is at their own pace.
14. There's nothing wrong with wanting to do an unconventional job. You don't have to do a 9 to 5, that's what society made up to keep everyone in 'order'.

Tips on how to be memorable:

• Have a signature scent
• Be really sweet to everyone
• Have a signature color/aesthetic
• Wear jewellery
• Be your most authentic self 

Tips on good hygiene:

• Layer your scents
• Have a signature scent - vanilla body cream, vanilla perfume, vanilla lotion - for example!
• Wear the spray on deodorants, if you're someone who sweats a lot from the roll on deodrants
• Shave, so you can feel fresh and clean!
• Face mask
• Skin care products - INVEST IN THEM!
• Always wash your hands
• Wash your face after wiping your makeup off
• Wash your face before you go to bed
• Brush twice a day
• Shower twice a day 

Lots of love,

Pr1na